I dont know

Would you rather lose all of your memory up until this moment or not be able to create new memories from this moment.

this question makes you think “was the person i was better than the person i’m going to be? Will my future be better than my past”


100 questions part 2

1. What do you see yourself doing with your life in 5 years, 10 years?
2. Have you had an experience you would say has impacted the direction of your life?
3. Have you had to make an important decision that affected the direction of your life?
4. Are there people you don’t like? Are there people that don’t like you?
5. Where do you consider good places for a couple to be romantic?
6. What has been an embarrassing moment for you?
7. Are you ever bored?
8. What are good leisure activities a family should try to do together?
9. Are you okay that I still might have some feelings for my Ex?
10. What is your definition of emotional intimacy?
11. What do you think of this expression: Where there was fire, ashes remain.
12. What sort of future financial plans/goals do you have?
13. What is your biggest goal in life?
14. What is your favorite book/author?
15. Describe yourself in 3 words.
16. Tell me your 3 weaknesses.
17. Who is your hero, do you have more than one?
18. What are the most important things in life?
19. What questions would you like me to answer?
20. What are your bad/good habits?
21. What are your point of view of the world? Liberal/conservative, spiritual/atheist
22. What would you do to leave an impression on a person on your first date?
23. What to you would the perfect life consist of?
24. Is there an age where being a virgin, you think, would be awkward?
25. What’s been your most intimate experience? What it emotional as well as physically intimate?
26. Can you have emotional intimacy without physical intimacy?
27. Do you still have feelings for an ex?
28. How long did your most intimate relationship last?
29. Do you regret any of those intimate experiences with that person?
30. Have you ever had the feeling you were being watched, in general, not during, you know.
31. What was your most conflicted emotional moment?
32. Do you usually follow your heart or your head?
33. What is your opinion about same gender relationships?
34. Do you think the past matters in a relationship?
35. How would you react if I told I have had a relationship with a partner of the same gender?
36. Do you believe in any god or gods? Why? Are you spiritual?
37. Do you have any opinions about politics?
38. Do you have any hobbies?
39. Have you ever experimented with legal/illegal drugs?
40. What do you think is the key to good parenting?
41. Do you like pets in the house? Do you like pets?
42. What is the weirdest thing about you to most people?
43. Tell me something about your first kiss.
44. If your parents don’t like me for some reason, is that a deal breaker?
45. Have you ever had a one night stand? If you did, do you regret it?
46. Do you believe in soul mates?
47. Do you have a criminal record, any contraction of diseases?
48. What is your dream job?
49. Are you willing to stay away from your family if you ever have to for a job?
50. Which living celebrity/author/singer would you like to know?
51. If you could meet a famous dead person, whom would you like to meet?
52. What do you think about unfaithfulness in a relationship?
53. Do you think love at first sight is possible?
54. If your job started negatively impacting our relationship, what would you do?
55. Who is your favorite fictional character and why?
56. Do you prefer reading books or watching movies?
57. Do you have any regrets in life?
58. What is your ideal vacation?
59. Do you have a favorite movie?
60. If you are allowed to do just one thing for the rest of your life, what would it be?
61. What are some things about you that you take pride in?
62. What is the most courageous thing you have ever done in your life?
63. What is your earliest memory?
64. What do you like most about you?
65. Will you be OK with me hanging out with you and your friends?
66. If you could change something about your life, what would it be?
67. Have you ever taken dancing classes? Do you like to dance?
68. Do you think it is important to learn any form of a performing art?
69. What are you looking for in a relationship? In the long term or short term?
70. If you have three wishes, what do would you wish for?
71. Which is the song that makes you happy?
72. If you could have a superpower, what would be your superpower?
73. Who has been the most influential person for you so far in life?
74. Is there a movie that makes you cry no matter how many times you watch it?
75. If you could change one thing about yourself physically, what would it be?
76. What is the best advice you ever received?
77. What kind of music do you like?
78. If you had a previous relationship, why did your last relationship break up?
79. Are you still friends with that person?
80. What was a good moment in that relationship?
81. What are the craziest things that you’ve done with someone?
82. What will you have accomplished at work/school one year from now?
83. If you could go on a road trip where would you go?
84. What is the best part about family life?
85. What is a favorite memory you have of being with your family?
86. Tell me 3 good points about me.
87. What are your expectations of me in our relationship?
88. Did you ever want to kill someone?
89. Have you ever wanted something really bad and then later, not so much?
90. Is there anything I could do to make you think I am a bad person?
91. What would you do without electricity for 3 days?
92. Do you like to go shopping, not buying, shopping?
93. After I had asked you out for the first time, was there any part of you that wanted to say no?
94. Where are some places you like to go on dates that might be different from where we usually go?
95. What are your views on open relationships? Do you know what an open relationship is?
96. Have you ever thought of adopting a child?
97. Is money more important to you or are relationships you share with people more important?
98. What is it that you are passionate about?
99. Do you believe long distance relationships can work?
100. What are your thoughts right now about spending the rest of your life with just one partner?

100 questions

  1. How are you, really?
  2. How do you feel right now? What are you thinking about?
  3. What’s your favorite color?
  4. What’s your favorite food?
  5. What’s your favorite dessert?
  6. How old are you?
  7. What have you learned today?
  8. What was your favorite subject in school?
  9. What do you do?
  10. What are some of your favorite books?
  11. What are some of your favorite movies?
  12. What kind of music are you into?
  13. If you were going to write a book, what would you call it and what would it be about?
  14. What’s one of the scariest things you’ve ever done?
  15. What accomplishment are you most proud of?
  16. Are you married?
  17. How did you meet your spouse / girlfriend / boyfriend?
  18. Do you think it’s better to get married when you’re young or better to wait a while?
  19. Do you have any kids?
  20. Have you ever thought of adopting?
  21. When you were a kid, what did you want to be when you grew up?
  22. How did you get into [INSERT THEIR CAREER FIELD]?
  23. Would you recommend [INSERT THEIR CAREER] for other people? Why / Why not?
  24. What do you do for fun?
  25. Do you like traveling?
  26. If you could visit any country in the world, where would you go?
  27. Who are some people you’d like to meet someday?
  28. If someone asked you to give them a random piece of advice, what would you say?
  29. What’s one of your favorite habits you have?
  30. What are some things that make you really happy?
  31. What are some things that make you really sad?
  32. What are some things that scare you?
  33. Do you like to plan things out in detail or be spontaneous?
  34. Are you a religious person?
  35. If you could go back in history, who would you like to meet?
  36. Would you rather live in the country or in the city?
  37. What was your life like growing up?
  38. What were you like in high school?
  39. Do you have any brothers or sisters? How many?
  40. What’s your favorite part about today so far?
  41. Who in your life has influenced you the most? How did they do it?
  42. What’s your favorite joke?
  43. Have you ever tried sushi? (Did you like it?)
  44. Do you like spicy food?
  45. How do you like your steak cooked?
  46. Do you have a favorite number? Any particular reason why you like that number?
  47. If you were a type of animal, what would you be and why?
  48. What’s one of the strangest things you’ve ever done?
  49. What kind of vacations do you like?
  50. What are some of your major goals in life?
  51. What are some of your smaller goals in life?
  52. What do you like least about yourself?
  53. What embarrasses you?
  54. If you could try out any job for a day, what would you like to try?
  55. What’s your earliest memory?
  56. What’s the best decision you ever made?
  57. Who’s your best / closest friend?
  58. What do you think people think of you?
  59. What were your grades like in school?
  60. If you could learn one random skill, what would you learn?
  61. Are you an introvert or an extrovert?
  62. Have you ever taken a personality test? (How did the results turn out?)
  63. What’s the first thing you notice about people?
  64. Do you think people can control their own destiny?
  65. Do you think all people are equally valuable, or do you think some people in certain situations might be more valuable than others (say, a severely retarded patient vs. a doctor who could potentially save hundreds of lives)?
  66. Do you think people are basically bad or basically good?
  67. Do you think morals are universal or relative to the beliefs, traditions, and practices of individuals or groups?
  68. Do you think God exists?
  69. Do you think any kind of afterlife exists?
  70. Do you vote? Why / Why not? If you do vote, how do you usually vote?
  71. Do you think gay people choose to be gay? Do you think straight people choose to be straight?
  72. Is torture ever a good option? If no, why not? If yes, when?
  73. Would you kill an innocent person if you thought it might mean saving a dozen other people?
  74. What’s the most money you’ve ever given away?
  75. What’s the biggest personal change you’ve ever made?
  76. What’s the stupidest thing you’ve ever done?
  77. What do you think would be one of the best steps we could take toward ending poverty around the world?
  78. What do you think we could do to best improve the education system?
  79. In general, what do you think about art?
  80. What are some of your favorite websites?
  81. What’s the biggest turnoff in a man/woman?
  82. What’s the biggest lie you’ve ever told?
  83. What’s something most people don’t know about you?
  84. What’s something you wish everyone knew about you?
  85. What are some of the first things you do in the morning?
  86. What’s the worst thing that’s ever happened to you?
  87. Do you cry easily?
  88. How do you feel about public speaking?
  89. Do you like to talk on the phone?
  90. How many emails do you get each week, roughly?
  91. If someone were to make a movie about your life, who would you hope would play you?
  92. What’s one of your favorite questions to ask new friends or to get a conversation going?
  93. Would you ever sky dive or bungee jump?
  94. Have you ever been in a fist fight?
  95. What’s the best prank you’ve ever pulled?
  96. What did you do on your 16th birthday?
  97. What do you think is one of the most undervalued professions right now?
  98. How would you explain your basic life philosophy?
  99. Would you rather be hated or forgotten?
  100. If you knew you would die tomorrow, would you feel cheated today?

What hearing God does not mean?

Its important to understand that all human problems come from hearing God wrongly. If we are in the image of God in order for us to understand ourselves righty we have to first understand God.

The very idea of hearing God can be troublesome because God communicates in many ways dreams visions, actions in the physical world, the bible.

But did you know the bible can kill you because when reading the bible there are many ways we can bring ourselves to the bible and not understand it. “if a jackass looks into a mirror he will not see an apostle looking out” and very often the bible is a mirror and we see what we bring to it.

We have to read the bible on the assumption that we don’t already know what it says, we have to come before it humbly, repentantly assuming that you haven’t got it.

Thats is important because when God is speaking to us we must always leave it in a position where we are not in control. Because the desire to control is one of the many ways that we fail to hear God. The desire to make him say what we want him to say.

So when we come into conversations with God we want to abandon our hopes for control

What about motive? why do you want to hear from God. Do you want to hear from God when you don’t have a need. Or are you actually trying to use God’s guidance to keep you safe. Many people want to know the will of God so they will not be responsible for their actions, they can say God said it, He told me to do it.

But responsibility is the heart to our relationship with God.

We can be on the wrong side of life because we are on the wrong side of God.

Guidance is not the focus of a conversational relationship with God. If you had a child and the only time they talked to you was because they wanted guidance you would realize there was something wrong with that relationship.

Some people think if God is not telling them what to do all the time they are out of the will of God. But that is not the idea of how God develops his saints.

YOu can try too hard to hear God. In a conversational relationship you have to leave initiative for the other person, you have to leave space and also not think about yourself the whole time.

Bible roulette is another way people try to hear form God, you open the bible point your finger and say thats what God told me to do. Have you discovered that you don’t have to be right all the time for God to work with you. Sometimes you have to remember that just because God blesses something it doesn’t mean it was his preference, we don’t have to be right. But its not the right way to try to hear from God.

There are real problems that come from methods of forcing God to tell us something. But you do not force a conversation, you respect, you wait and you listen.

Another problem is that people often assume that people in authority bring Gods word and God’s will. it often happens in a context where people are not taught to hear Gods word for themselves, so when the person in authority says God said, they don’t know what to say. This always leads to terrible things.

Many people have trouble hearing God because they think he is far off, space is an issue. BUt space and distance is not a problem for God

Hearing God is not about getting a word or a verse it is about developing our character by being with God

So hearing from God is not getting a free pass from having the anxiety to make decisions

People who are locked into managing their own worlds can superstitiously start doing things. In superstition there is no natural connection between what you are trying to manipulate, and what makes a connection natural is that you don’t cook it up



“I’m trying to be more patient. I want everything to happen right now, when I know I should be going slow and paying my dues.””In what area are you most impatient?””I know I should say ‘career,’ but honestly, I really want to fall in love.””How do you pay your dues in love?””You’ve got to meet a lot of people. You can’t just go around saying: ‘Hey! You’re nice, and attractive. So I love you!’”

Purpose of life

Every one of us walks around the earth with a can of peaches and Jesus is the only one with a can opener.” And we’re just frustrated. Sir Arnold Toynbee’s a historian. He said that, “Of the 21 greatest nations, civilizations, in the history of the world, ours, the modern west, is the first and the only that does not teach its citizens why they exist because we don’t know.”

“The goal, then, should be this – to find life forward, live it backward.” You gotta know why you’re here and then organize your life toward that purpose. And there’s really only two options. The goal is us or the goal is God. And Jesus says, “If you lose your life, that’s how you find it.” That the whole point of life is God and I’ll tell you the beauty of this. As soon as you worship God, as soon as you know God, as soon as you’re connected to God, you have diminished expectations for life. Life doesn’t need to be perfect.

The reason he’s brought you here tonight is to love him. To worship him. To trust him. And to realize that he is the goal of your existence and anything else you may set up, will be frustrating. And those of you that have tried, that’s why you keep changing gods


Look, I know what this stuff is intended for. I created it. I gave it to you. I love you. If you use it in relationship with me, I’ll show you how it’s supposed to go and you can actually enjoy it and be happy.” But, apart from Creator, creation is meaningless.


The goal is this – enjoy the life that God has given you by drawing near to him and then Creator will help you enjoy creation.

And here’s the secret. If you forget everything else, remember this. What will keep you from sin? What will keep you from sin? Satisfaction will keep you from sin. That’s the great secret of a Christian life. Satisfied people don’t need to sin. Do I like to eat? I do. Can it become gluttony? Of course. Do I stop eating? No. You can only do that for so long.



“Being a leader in any ministry is all about serving people. Your job is to listen to them, accept them and love them. You are showing them the love of Christ. For some people, you will be the only person in their life who loves them and doesn’t want or expect anything from them. I’m not gonna lie, this kind of calling is not easy. You will be dissed, rejected, talked about, even hated. You will have long nights and conversations you can’t even imagine. You will learn the dark parts about people’s lives and it will require tons of patience, humility and gentleness. “



“There’s a place you want to be in your walk with the Lord. You know you’re not there yet, and you probably think it will never really happen, but instead of focussing on that, what if you just imagine you’re already there now? Think about it. Pretend for a few minutes that you are exactly where you want to be with Jesus – how would He feel about you? What kinds of stuff would you talk about with Him? What would be the most important thing to you? Okay, whatever that world would be like, just go ahead and live there. Go ahead and act like you are where you want to be with Jesus and just love Him like that. He’s already there with you. It can be yours, right now, today.”


Pain and Suffering

“The problem of pain isn’t an equation you work out with your own guilt in tow. In fact, Jesus paid to remove your guilt forever. Suffering is complicated, but it’s not a penalty. Whatever happens, you are not being punished. That is the Good News.”


bad things

“When something terrible happens to you, do you automatically assume it’s because of something wrong you did? If something doesn’t go your way, is your first instinct to look back at the week you just lived and review the sins you did that you haven’t asked forgiveness for? It’s the most natural thing in the world to assume that bad things happen as a result or a punishment for your sin, but it’s not that simple. If hard times were just a result of sin, we could clean up our act and avoid difficulty and suffering, but we know that isn’t the way things work. God isn’t keeping a tally of your sin and dealing out appropriate punishments for those bad choices and attitudes as a way to get you to step in line. If you want proof, look at Jesus who never sinned, but suffered more than we can imagine. No, the punishment for sin is not a bad day, a car wreck, a disease or financial ruin. The punishment for sin is eternal separation from God and Jesus paid it on your behalf so that you can be forgiven forever. When bad things happen, there is no simple explanation and no place to easily point a finger of blame.”